You can’t assume to know what goes on in people’s minds or what they feel. The more people I get to know, the more I know that you don’t know much about people you know. There’s ocean’s of emotions and ponderings and views and feelings and memories. With some people you can talk for hours or even days and not even dip into that sea.
And so human beings tend to swim in self-pity instead, assuming no one has gone through what they’re going through right now. When someone says, “I know how you feel”, we are sure that they don’t. Who knows, maybe they do. It just might be that they’ve been through something similar while you don’t realise it.
About three years ago, I met Abdul in West Africa. He was from Sierra Leone and he had no hands, no family, no home. All lost because of the war there I guess. He never told me what happened exactly. He just smiled…a lot! What did he have to smile about? Somehow he managed to have joy and swim in it!